She's the only child, and -- for better or worse -- she's going to get all your love and attention.But only children "need time and space with freedom to do what he or she wants," write Cliff Isaacson and Kris Radish in The Birth Order Effect (Schwartz Books).We begin the school year with blank notebooks, pages fresh and clean.Backpacks are free of crumbs and leaked box drinks. We try to get to school a bit before the morning bell and start the year off on the right track. The kids are going to sleep way past bedtime, waking up with just a few moments to spare.Using these principles, Jews have managed to stay strong all these millennia.But in today’s world, we are finding more of a challenge, and the consequences are devastating. But we can break the cycle and turn our ship around. By renewing our commitment to Jewish education and Jewish observance.Moms and dads, who recognize the golden opportunities in routine living tasks, capitalize upon them by turning them into teaching interactions, build solid relationships, have fewer behavior problems, and receive daily rewards. Teaching interactions can take several forms such as: 5. The message should always be, "Your needs and feelings are normal and okay and we are here to help you express them in ways that will allow you to be successful and responsible." 9.
Your little guy may not be the next Elvis, but he might be the next Einstein.2. Only children tend to be perfectionists, so if you try to "redo" every little thing they do, like remaking their bed or redusting a shelf they just cleaned, you're only going to reinforce their perfectionist habits. Kevin Leman, author of The Birth Order Book: Why You Are the Way You Are (Revell), writes, "Don't be an 'improver' on everything your firstborn or only child says or does."3. Without any siblings, "Lonely onlies tend to be critical -- and even more than a bit self-centered," Leman writes, which means some only children have a hard time learning how to share, negotiate, or employ tact.For a thriving Jewish community, Jewish education must be the number one priority.Second, the Midrash says that when Jacob's family first arrived in Egypt, they made a pact amongst themselves in order to prevent assimilation.How can we make this year different from all the others?How can we take our hopes and wishes for positive change and turn them into a reality?